Posts Tagged ‘Wedding Plan’
I suppose it’s time. It’s been almost 4 weeks since the wedding which means almost 15 months since I first started planning a wedding.
So it’s time.
It’s time to review the GOOD the BAD and the UGLY of wedding planning!
This review can be fun for those of you that attended my wedding, helped me plan, or just enjoy wedding stories. Hopefully it will be good for those of you that are planning a wedding- because I think I learned some life lessons along the way.
Good News First
- It’s a time in your life where you get to plan an event that is totally reflective of you and your significant other: I personally found this part of wedding planning to be ridiculously fun. I loved looking for ideas and items that reminded me of Tim or the first time we met or our first date. It’s nice to plan an event that is supposed to be a reflection of two personalities combined into one to start a whole new life together. It’s fun and it gives you a chance to really reflect back on some great memories and you start looking forward to more in the future.
- There really is “something in the air”: During wedding planning there is this deep understanding from your significant other that there is a lot going on. Planning a wedding takes a lot of work and there is kind of this understand “in the air” that creates this get along- almost a pre-honeymoon phase or something. While this doesn’t last the ENTIRE time during the process it exists and when it is there, it is pretty nice.
- You find out who your friends are: I suppose this could go in either category but for me it was good. It was seriously so amazing and we felt so humbled by the amount of love and support from our friends and family throughout the entire process. You catch up with old friends- you may even get closer with those friends you have- and often times you see people that you haven’t seen in YEARS and are just excited to watch you take another step in your life. It is an amazing feeling to see so much love and support all brought together by one single event.
- Bridezilla CAN be a myth: never every single bride is destined to be a bridezilla. I was actually told the morning of my wedding that I was the most calm person in the room. NAILED IT. That is what I was going for. Stay calm. Plan well. You are not REQUIRED to be a bridezilla. This is good news for all.
- You’ll have your “moments”: and to make this even better those moments will live up to your expectations. For girls, you’ll have the dance with your dad… so the couple you’ll have your first dance together as a married couple. This will be romantic, sweet, wonderful, and very good news. The things that you have been dreaming about… they will come true… and they will exceed your expectations.
- Everyone has something to say and wants you to LOVE their ideas: This isn’t ugly.. but it can get bad. You have to understand that this wedding is not just the joining of two people but the joining of two families… so the families have things to say! It’s totally fair that they do and usually you are just grateful that they care so much but there will come a point in time where you just want to scream THIS IS MY WEDDING and it’s just not a nice thing to do. Take everyone’s opinions and thoughts as they come and find a way to sort it out with what you actually want. Don’t turn someone’s thoughts away just because you didn’t think of it yourself- chances are good it came from a good place. But at the end of the day keep in scope what you and your significant other wants out of the wedding- not what everyone else wants.
- You can’t control everything: Mother Nature doesn’t care that you want 75 degrees and partly cloudy. The gardener at the reception site may not care that he just mowed the grass that morning. Your church may not mind the huge plant sitting in the back of the church that needs watered. It is IMPOSSIBLE for you to control every single detail but gosh you will want to. We all know this little fact and yet it made it into my bad bucket… why is that? because you will do it! No matter how many times someone tells you that your water is not out of place or that your lipstick is perfect you WILL find a way to want to make it different. You’ll be a control freak. Everyone will think it. Hopefully no1 says it. It’s ok. Just know that you are in good company.
- Not everyone cares about your wedding like you do: I came to this conclusion early on and it was hard for me. Since it was the most important day of our lives (meaning Tim and I) I thought everyone else thought so to. Well actually their weddings or the day their own children were born probably trumps my wedding day. WHAT?!? is that true? Why yes it is. It is a hard realization to come to but guess what… you are not the only weddings your vendors have. They also have lives. Jobs. Families. Your friends have work. School. Parties to go to. Drinks to be drunk. Realizing this early will save you from putting this in the UGLY category.
- It goes by SO FAST: seriously it will feel like a blur even if you start getting ready at 8am. You are so busy talking laughing and just enjoying yourself that the day will FLY by. It’s fun but it’s a little disappointing when you can’t remember every single little detail. The best advice I was given: take a DEEP BREATH at least once throughout the night and look around the room. Take it all in. Remember that moment. That memory will last a lifetime if you do this.
The just plain out Ugly
- Someone will say something mean: Not everyone will like your dress. Your flowers may be ugly to 10% of the people there. Maybe your cake didn’t taste the way someone wanted it to. This WILL hurt your feelings. It MAY make you cry. You WILL get over it. We are taught in elementary school that everyone is different and unique yet when we plan a wedding we sort of forget about that… we start thinking that EVERYONE should love and appreciate every detail just as much as you do… you put a lot of time and effort into it after all but that’s just not possible. Someone won’t like something you did. That doesn’t matter.
- Something will go wrong: sad yet? Don’t be. I’m sure things went wrong at my wedding but guess what? I don’t even know about them! I mean sure, Tim dropped his tissue during our vows and guess what? I loved it! The pictures are adorable… but did I plan it? No. Something will go wrong. It will be ugly. But you won’t even know about it.
- The budget: The budget is ugly. Unless you have an unlimited budget that someone else is paying for it is ugly. Everything is EXPENSIVE and even more expensive as soon as you mention the word wedding *I read once to just say “family get together” because pricing may be different- don’t know if that works*. It is HARD to stay on budget. You have to estimate everything at the beginning and you will fall in love with 10 more ideas between the initial budget discussion and the wedding date. Silly Pinterest haha. Figure out how to STICK to your budget. We went a little over. Not a lot. But still over. This was an ugly little sucker.
Well, those are my top take-a-ways from wedding planning! It was SO FUN and the good totally outweighs the bad! Such a fabulous experience <3
We have had just a ton of wedding planning stuff going on and the other night we met with a perspective DJ in Strongsville. We headed there straight from our allergy shots (we sound like such dorks!) and we were pretty early so we headed to dinner first! As we sat across from each other chowing on Sushi we laughed and enjoyed the time we got to spend together. We got to talk about our day, talk about the wedding, talk about the upcoming visit from some of our best friends, and just reflected back on the crazy busy few months we have had. Between tax season, wedding planning, grad school, confirmation class, a busy work schedule, and a focus on exercise stress has been high but we have enjoyed being able to look back and laugh at the hard stuff and look forward to all of the good stuff. This dinner was not only delicious but such a nice time to just be the 2 of us!
We enjoyed WAY too much food… including 3 different types of sushi….
So much that I couldn’t get all 3 in the same picture!
Teriyaki chicken that came with soup and rice and of course started with edamame and pot-stickers…
I should insert here that we had a spend $50 and get $25 off restaurant.com gift certificate. So the chicken served as Tim’s lunch the next day- which was the plan from the beginning just FYI… we didn’t plan on consuming that much food in one sitting.
After dinner we headed to Starbucks to meet with PJ the DJ. PJ was great- so full of energy. Gave us the rundown of how DJ’s think during a reception, shared some of his favorite and not so favorite wedding songs, and wasn’t afraid to offer up advice! Tim and I both really enjoyed DJ. More good wedding news!!